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[quote=Anonymous]To respond to the question, the one guy who actually scared me and made me worry about being stalked:

Told me that he had big arguments with his ex wives
Told that he couldn’t wait until we had our first fight 
Told me that he’d gotten into fist fights with several guys within the past few years 
Accused me (wrongly) of cheating on him
Called me repeatedly one day to send insist that he wanted to drive me to the airport (middle of a workday)
Had a parent who was an addict and abandoned the family

This all happened over the course of 4 dates in 4 weeks, where I went from “he’d be fine to casually hang out with” (after hearing about his past marriages) to “shit this guy is really scary and I need to figure out how to stop seeing him without setting him off”.

Looking back now, I can say that I was stupid for going on a third date with him (I didn’t learn any of the above on the first date, other than having two ex’s).  But I’ve never been in an abusive relationship, never dated anyone who told me he got into fist fights, and didn’t come from a dysfunctional family. So while I knew that he wasn’t long term relationship material, it didn’t immediately occur to me that he could be violent towards me too. His behavior towards me was fine until the day I was leaving town and he started getting weird about that and then accused me of cheating. For some reason, it just took time for my brain to process that his history of violence would put me in danger at some point. 
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