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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You mentioned that he was abused as a child. Can you elaborate?[/quote]
His mom is an awful narcissistic alcoholic. She was horrible to him when he was a child.[b] He says he has limited contact with her and is out of her thumb now. [/b]But it took years or fights were sometimes his father would get physical with him. When his mother bullied him and his sister his father would not interfere.[/quote]

Doesn’t sound like it to me if he’s visiting 15-20 times a year and sleeping over during Christmas. 
I think you should both do individual therapy.[/quote]
Op here. This is what is the root of my problem. It’s not like his mother is an otherwise healthy individual who doesn’t happen to like me. She is mentally ill and has destroyed her children. I have heard bad stories. She’s give her babies medicine to make them go to sleep. She bullied my husband because he was dark and not blonde and waspy etc.

The problem is my husband has abused child syndrome where on one had he says she was awful but on the other he still craves any affection she will give him. And refuses to acknowledge the full extent of her mental illness. [/quote]

Sorry if you already answered this but has your husband done any individual counseling?  Does he recognize/acknowledge that he is still pursuing a relationship with an unhealthy/emotionally abusive person even though he is "limiting" his contact?  Can he articulate the boundaries he has for what he considers acceptable interaction between his mom and himself as well as his mom and you?  [/quote]

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