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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP what is it that you want? People have given advice and you poopoo it all. Are you just here to vent?[/quote]

She wants him to stop visiting them completely. He’s already limited his visits according to her. She also has the freedom to stay home but that’s not enough because she wants to spend Christmas Day with him.

OP, he says he won’t stop visiting completely or cut them off completely. He’s offered you a compromise of not going with him. It seems like that’s as far as he will go and, frankly, insisting he give up his family and traditions seems a little much.  Yes, ideally he’d talk to his mom and tell her to shut up, but people don’t change much and I doubt that would work anyway. You need to decide whether you can live in a marriage where he has a part of his life (his family, his traditions) that you don’t join in.  [/quote]

Where in any of OPs posts did she say she wanted her DH to cut them off. You are posting over and over in this thread and it's obnoxious. You sound like a disgruntled MIL.

OP wants her DH to support her. OP would probably appreciate DH telling his mom not to insult, lie and demean his wife. OP would probably like some encouragement from DH that what she feels is not wrong and stop telling her to "just ignore it".

OP is following advice and asked for a therapist recommendation in another thread - and I don't think anyone even responded to THAT. But you're chattering on nonstop about how unreasonable OP is being. She sounds like she has bent over backwards and all she wants to know is that DH has her back - outside of "that's just the way they are and you can stay home".

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You’re responding to me, one of the many posters on this thread. I’m not posting over and over—others here are telling OP exactly the same thing. And I’m not a MIL. But you do you.

But nobody knows what she wants. She’s unhappy that he’s over there 20x a year (they’re in town or nearby?) so she wants him to visit them less or maybe not at all. She’s unhappy that she stays home while he goes. She says he wants her to be with her on Christmas Day instead of with them, even though she’s Muslim and she and DH can buy a tree for their own place if that’s what she wants. This starts to sound like she’s asking him to cut them off.

Yes, her husband should validate her and tell his mom to STFU. But there are elements of a compromise here and she’s rejecting them all in favor of, apparently, stronger measures. What do you think is reasonable? [/quote]

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