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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a seven year old who doesn’t start camp until next week. Last week, my aunt babysat her, this week my ex’s mom is babysitting. I called last night to see how DD’s day is going and to say goodnight. This is something I do when she’s with my aunt or even her dad. He calls when she’s with me. Today, my ex called me and said his mom doesn’t want me calling her while DD is visiting. She thinks it’s getting in the way of her bonding time with DD. I never imagined it would be a problem to call my own child! I’m not calling to bother her, I just call more so to say goodnight. Am I missing something? Am I wrong for this?[/quote]

Grandma is not entitled to special bonding time with her grandchild that is uninterrupted by the child's parents. If a nightly goodnight phone call from the child's mother disrupts the bonding process, then what is happening is inappropriate.

When I got divorced, my ex and I agreed that a nightly bedtime call with DD was appropriate unless there was something going on that prevented that call from occurring (e.g., DD fell asleep in the car on the way home, DD declines call, major time difference issue, etc.). When DD stayed with my mom and sister for a few days, they called my ex AND me at bedtime. When he took her on vacation to his mom's house, they called me every night. We continued this until DD said that she didn't need a nightly bedtime call anymore (she was around 6).

If you and your ex have agreed that a nightly bedtime call is appropriate, Grandma doesn't get to make that decision.[/quote]

I guess you can stand on that hill and fight that battle, but I think your decision should be driven by the child. Does [b]she[/b] need the call or is it for [b]you[/b]? If it's just for you, let it go because in the scheme of things it won't matter and getting along is the higher road for the sake of your kid. If your daughter really really needs the call,  you can figure it out how to make it happen. Like the other posters are asking, could it just be the timing? Or you can ask Grandma if every other day would work. [/quote]

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