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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You sound reasonable. I wouldn’t negotiate and just tell them it won’t work for you. Find someone else. You aren’t going to relax with them watching her. [/quote]

Of course she won't.  Because she's an anxious person!!  She's not going to relax no matter who takes care of the baby.[/quote]

I have had others care for her and have relaxed. I leave her in daycare everyday! She's been with my mother, a doula, and sitters. It is specifically the length of time and the caretakers that worry me. And goodness - yes I AM an anxious person! I'm not trying to say that I'm not. But anxiety doesn't make everything you think automatically unreasonable. I work hard to try and sort out what is anxiety and what is valid parental concern.

I just feel that this trip would be better for everyone if DD was in daycare during the week. I would love to cancel, but my sister is getting married. DH wants to come on the international trip and he is part of the family. I think our marriage will benefit from the alone time. [/quote]

I don't understand - why on earth wouldn't you take your one year old with you to her own aunt's wedding - and especially if it was overseas.  I think *this* is what you are being anxious about.  You absolutely should take your child with you - one week without routine will be FINE if she's with her parents.  She's not a baby, she's a toddler.  You can be flexible with routines at this age.  And travel at this age is not as difficult as you think it is. She'll sleep the whole time.  I don't understand why
+1. I don't understand why you wouldn't take her either. Of course your marriage would benefit from some alone time but it doesn't sound like the right time for that. [/quote]

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