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[quote=Anonymous]I guess I'm not understanding how what he said is a sign of "temper" or "threatening behavior"? You said that you were disgusted with him and you had no attraction to him. That's your right, I guess, but what reaction were you expecting? Why should he want to be with someone who regards him that way?

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm DH's second wife.  This sounds very familiar to his first wife who would complain he wouldn't work out, wasn't sexy, didn't want to do fitness stuff with her all the time.  That's why they divorced, they just were no longer attracted to each other and had different goals for weekend activities.  Yes, he's got a dad-bod, but I dig it, and we've been happily married now for almost 10 years and have 2 kids.  We go for family walks nightly, but none of us are running a marathon anytime soon. [/quote]

OP here. The number of opinions and conjecture about my life are entertaining. I exercise 4 days a week, during my work day. I lost 10lbs by cleaning up my diet, specifically stopping the 5 lunches out every week. I couldn't tell you the last time I did "fitness stuff" on the weekend or expected DH to join me. He's also 5'11" and 300 pounds, so we're well beyond dad-bod at this point.

To answer some of the other questions:
I make 4x what he does, and no, he does not contribute to our quality of life. Since being released from his last steady job (due to an action he took), he has been happily underemployed, enjoying the free time to sleep in and work minimal hours.

When we met, he was in a high-risk job. Had he been injured on the job, that would be different than him just being too lazy to get his life together. Same for if he was genuinely sick and not just glutonous.

His temper seems to be a family trait, as his brother is the same way. They both respond with the most extreme thing they can come up with. Ex-SIL finally gave up. I really don't think there is any amount of drugs or counseling that can change him, especially since he doesn't want to be changed. He thinks this threatening behavior is fine.

Quite honestly, if we divorce and he wants to lose 100lbs to go after some hot young thing, good for him. It won't change all of his negative traits.

Fortunately, I was already working longer hours this week so I could take a long weekend, so I won't have to see him much. [/quote][/quote]

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