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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I get it.  Your aunt was very conscious of being fair to all three of you.  My sister would be the same way with my kids.  Your uncle made what he thinks is a kind and generous gift to your sister and it is one, but it negates how your aunt expressed her desire to see the family’s assets shared amongst her neices and nephew.

That said, if your uncle wants to remain in the house and wants companionship and is close with your sister and her new husband, there really was no way to have that and leave the house to all three of you for all the reasons others have pointed out.  Your sister is in many ways giving up the opportunity to buy a home with her husband and build an independent life with him, including investing in real estate.  Your uncle might live for another 30 years, you said he is healthy and in good shape.  She has made a big commitment to him in this.[/quote]

No one knows whether or not Uncle has money set aside for the other two, made them the beneficiaries of a life insurance policy, etc.

The house might not be the only thing they have to remember OP and her brother.

Wouldn't OP look like an ass if she raises a stink over the house only to learn that there was a different inheritance waiting for her.[/quote]

Yes, but the point of my post above is that OP’s feelings are entirely understandable and she is trying to work through them.   We don’t have to call her selfish for having understandable feelings, but should give her another perspective that the uncle may have been trying to do his best under the circumstances and help her understand that it is not a black and white matter of having decided to cut her out of his will.  Also explaining that the cost to her sister will be long term as well.[/quote]

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