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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Luckily I have a triple digit IQ and can think of better, more productive ways to discipline my kids than physically hurting them.  [/quote]

You know what?  I have an IQ of 148 and I have spanked my kids.  And I know a lot of other intelligent people who do.  In fact, as the studies show, those of you who have never spanked are in the clear minority (roughly 20%).

That said, spanking is not a common occurrence nor is it be done as an immediate or emotional response to anything, those are the lessons that teach that hitting is acceptable.  In our situation, we use other non-hitting forms of discipline.  Spanking for us was introduced when the children were verbal and were able to associate cause and effect.  If they violated other forms of discipline (like leaving timeout) then they were given the option to return or get spanked as an alternative response to the disciplinary issue.  One of the things is that it was established that hitting was an alternative discipline, not a primary discipline and the child had the option to go with the original punishment or take this instead.  I had my child who did not want to sit in timeout accept a spanking (always on the bottom, not anywhere else) when he didn't want a long timeout (timeouts were #minutes=age in years).  But this was not spanking in retaliation, but a choice the child made to trade punishments.

The only other time I've used spanking is when the child instinctively did something dangerous (running in a parking lot without looking) and repeated attempts to talk to him did not encourage him to change his behavior.  So, one time after he had been told repeatedly not to bolt in the parking lot, he did so and was promptly swatted on his bottom to make sure that there was an emotional reaction to this behavior.  That was a few years ago now and it did solve the problem.  He didn't run away after that.  In this case, his running was action without conscious thought and no number of warnings or requests to behave safely were heeded.  And the response stuck and he did not approach parking lots as a playground again.
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np. I agree with a lot of what you said, but in our case, the spankings were never an option. They were what happened in cases of particularly egregious behavior, or when other consequences were ineffective or defied.

I can't imagine they would ever have chosen a spanking over something else like a timeout. But all kids are different. [/quote]

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