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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, does he pay child support?  What on earth are his arguments for why he should get every weekend and you should get no weekends??

I loved the PPs story about the dad who chose his kids over his job. Sounds like you and your ex both have demanding jobs, and he wants you to make a huge sacrifice because of HIS situation. No way. You sound very reasonable, and [b]I’m pretty sure no judge would give him every weekend[/b]. [/quote]

I can think of at least 3  families I know with this exact arrangement where the dad gets every single weekend and they alternate holidays.
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I was just thinking this. I get my kids every weekend, every holiday and for the entire summer. Just let the kids go over there on the weekends. I think if you do it you will come to find that it really is no bid deal.[/quote]

Add another one for "I know a case where the father gets every weekend and all of summer" Just don't get overconfident that that won't happen.[/quote]

The question isn't whether a father gets every weekend.  The question is whether a court will order a father to be given evey weekend. Many women voluntarily give up weekends for a variety of reasons - to avoid an expensive custody fight, to keep the co-parenting relationship conflict-free, or because they feel that the father given weekday custody does not attend facilitate school/homework and other activities.  In the latter, the mother, chooses to be the "taskmaster" ensuring homework gets done rather than be the "fun" parent in order to ensure kids ha e future opportunities and skills.

The question is, in court, when the Dad asks for every weekend and the Mom shows that this is the schedule the Ex asked for, that she has offered him several compromises that have been rejected, will a judge go ahead and order every weekend?  IMO, the DH is not going to end up looking like the reasonable party, and judges get irritated if you clog up their court with over-reaching requests. Also, in this day and age, I think there is a higher likelihood that anjudge will recognize the fundamental economic inequity the law would be imposing -- Mom cuts down job travel to care for kids during the week this getting lower pay, while Dad benefits in terms of career/salary from not having to balance kids and work. [/quote]

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