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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What are you guys not understanding?  He started school a year late, then he was held back another year due to medical issues.  Regular 18 year old senior plus 2 years of being held back equals 20.  Geez.  Some of you should go back to school too.[/quote]

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Honestly, why are you all so adamant that this guy doesn't belong in high school?  There are plenty more horror stories about 16, 17, 18-year-old "boys" taking advantage of, or raping, or leading vulnerable girls down unsavory paths, etc. than the random 20-year-old that still happens to be in high school.[/quote]

There's the added element of the 20 year old being so much older. I have a 14 year old. I would think any 20 year old, whether he's a junior in college or a senior in high school, showing romantic interest in my daughter is a creep. The difference between 20 and 14 is huge.

There are 14/15/16/17/18 year olds I'd think were jerks or behaved inappropriately and wouldn't want my daughter to be linked romantically to, but they don't also have that creepy pedophile vibe that a 20 year old's interest in my daughter would have.[/quote]

So it creeps you out... but what is actually more damaging to your daughter?  [/quote]

Why are you so certain the 20-year- old is an upstanding citizen?

NP. I think these things can be equally damaging, but I also think a 14-year-old is more likely to tell parents or other authority figures, or even at the personal level argue or fight back with another "child." She is less likely to do so with someone she sees as older and more sophisticated.

This is a huge age difference. A 14-year-old is young for sex; a 20-year-old is old not to be having it. Those of you who are being devil's advocates here, or are assuming the best of everyone ... ok. Invite the guy home and let him date your daughter. I want my high-school freshman to date closer to her own age and life experience, both in and out of school.[/quote]

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