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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Next time you are talking to her I would casually mention that you saw him out at a restaurant. Then just honestly answer any question she asks.[/quote]

This is the approach I would take too. [/quote]

"Jenny, there is no good way to ask this, but I was surprised to see Bill on a romantic date at The Bistro the other night around 7pm.  Are you guys splitting up?"[/quote]

Even if I’d never done more than occasionally wave to you, I’d want you to tell me.

OP, tell her.[/quote]

OP here. When they first moved in, I was friends with the wife. Then as I got to know her better I found out that she is surrounded by drama in all of her relationships and so I started pulling back. She always seems on the verge of some sort of explosion. [b]She seems to have some mental and physical health issues. I'm not excusing his behavior at all but I think he's been fed up with her for a while from what my husband tells me.  [/b] I feel like if I told her what I saw then she would do something drastic and I don't want to be responsible for that. There are also kids involved, so I really have to be careful. I'm annoyed at her husband for putting his business out there like that but now it's too late. I just want to avoid both of them for a while but the holiday season is coming up and I know they'll be at a lot of the same events as we will.

But then I start feeling guilty because if the shoe was on the other foot I'd want someone to tell me so I could start looking into what was going on. [/quote]

Look, I don't know this lady at all. But I'm going to venture a guess that her husband is a POS, who probably cheated or came close to cheating in the past and/or has treated her poorly throughout their relationship, but doesn't want the expense or mess of a divorce. She may not understand the extent of his betrayal and distance, but I'm sure she feels it. That'll make most sane women a bit nutty, especially if she kind of knows, but doesn't really know. Even if she is horrible, he's in the wrong. He should just end it already. He's only making things, including her mental health, worse with his lying and cheating.

And what do you mean by doing something drastic? Divorce? Because if it's divorce, it's her right to make that choice. It's not your right to decide what is better for her or her family or her children. But she can't make that choice if her shit**g husband is gaslighting her and you're aiding him. [/quote]

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