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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People are allowed to throw the parties they want for their kids, in whatever manner and style they wish, with the guest list they choose. What is with this entitlement of my kid should be invited to every party? It's utter crap and contributes to all the candy-ass kids falling apart when the least thing doesn't go their way as adults. Sure, it sucks not to be invited but THAT'S LIFE.

As adults do we invite every adult we know? Nope. How did we learn to survive the blow? By experiencing it in childhood in the safety of our parents' care when they could explain to us that not everyone gets invited to everything.[/quote]

100% this.

OP, it sucks to be excluded, but the reality is that not every guest list can accommodate every person that your child is friends with.

In an adult example of the situation, a woman who is a really good friend did not invite me to her wedding. We had been close for about 6 months before the wedding occurred. Wedding was not small and people we were friends with (who had been friends with her longer than I had) were invited. Instead of distancing myself from my friend or talking about her behind her back, I congratulated her on getting married, asked if I could take her and her DH out for drinks to celebrate with them when they got back from honeymoon, and moved on with my life.[/quote]

Did they go out for drinks with you?  [/quote]

Yes, and we have been good friends for 10 years and she flat out told me that she felt bad at the time for not inviting me, but that the guest list had been set, had little wiggle room, and she appreciates me not taking it personally, since it wasn't personal.

That's how adults handle situations like that.[/quote]

Honestly, I would have been secretly relieved (not hurt) not to have been invited to that wedding after only knowing the person for 6 months and not really having much of a history with their social group or family.  But a kid's party where a specific neighborhood playmate is singled out for exclusion is different - that would absolutely have hurt my feelings as a kid.

10 year old kids aren't little adults.[/quote]

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