Reply to Neighborhood mom upset her daughter was not invited to birthday party

Forum Index » Elementary School-Aged Kids

Reply to "Neighborhood mom upset her daughter was not invited to birthday party"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People are allowed to throw the parties they want for their kids, in whatever manner and style they wish, with the guest list they choose. What is with this entitlement of my kid should be invited to every party? It's utter crap and contributes to all the candy-ass kids falling apart when the least thing doesn't go their way as adults. Sure, it sucks not to be invited but THAT'S LIFE.

As adults do we invite every adult we know? Nope. How did we learn to survive the blow? By experiencing it in childhood in the safety of our parents' care when they could explain to us that not everyone gets invited to everything.[/quote]

100% this.

OP, it sucks to be excluded, but the reality is that not every guest list can accommodate every person that your child is friends with.

In an adult example of the situation, a woman who is a really good friend did not invite me to her wedding. We had been close for about 6 months before the wedding occurred. Wedding was not small and people we were friends with (who had been friends with her longer than I had) were invited. Instead of distancing myself from my friend or talking about her behind her back, I congratulated her on getting married, asked if I could take her and her DH out for drinks to celebrate with them when they got back from honeymoon, and moved on with my life.[/quote]

I would definitely not create a scene over this, but this would say volumes about what I and my friendship meant to this woman. And that would be, she does not value it. Friendship is a 2 way road and all that.[/quote]

Nah. Because you know what? It's her event. I know why I made the guest list I made for my wedding. Not everyone was on it either. I was not about to allow one event to overshadow everything else I love about this woman and our friendship.

Ditto a birthday party. If someone doesn't invite my daughter to their birthday party but continues to want to play with her, I would assume that there was some kind of limit on the number of people they could invite and look at the rest of the friendship. In the OP's case, the mom is upset because her daughter felt excluded. That's understandable. I'm sad when my daughter is excluded from things too. My job as a parent,[b] however, is to help DD learn how to manage disappointment, not to intimidate people in order to shield her from disappointment.[[/b]/quote]

I agree with the bolded but as an adult some amount of reclassifying of the relationship would happen with me.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics