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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We removed our DD from this area because this was the norm in eighth grade!  Eighth grade!  DD is happily away enjoying being a fifteen year old and sitting around bonfires and pajama parties with all night movies. Boring, possibly to some, but I revel in her being able to just be a girl without all the pressures she faced at her dc private. And so does she. [/quote]

Removed your DD from the area? What? This happens literally all over the country. If your DD isn't into college parties, she is just as likely to do normal teen things here as she is anywhere else. Weird.[/quote]

I'm not PP, but I disagree.  On the margins, there are teenagers who would be the same no matter where they lived or who their peers were.

Some kids are natural risk-takers and boundary-pushers who like to be the first ones to try older kid things or push the limits of what they can get away with.  Whether they're at a DC private or a small town public school, they'd go find trouble.

On the other end, some kids are wired the complete opposite.  They're low-key and non boundary-pushers by nature.  Happy to do normal kid/teen things with absolutey no interest or curiosity about aging up, regardless of what their peers are doing.

But most kids are in the middle.  They have their own tendencies and personality, but they're aware and influenced by the social norm of their environment.  Put them in certain DC-area privates (or publics, for that matter), and they're world of options -- and behavior -- will be different than if they're in a less affluent or less cosmopolitan (for lack of a better word) community.

We now live far from the DC area in a close-in suburb to a smaller, more midwestern city.  It's not the big DC life, for sure.  But it's not the middle of nowhere, either.  Even so, I don't know a single 9 or 10 year old who has a phone.  Not one.  And very few of the the older kids with phones actually have the latest and greatest models.  It's just not the social norm, and my kids wouldn't even think to want or ask for that because it's not what they're seeing around them.

Same with getting dressed up like 20 year olds and hanging out at college parties.  It's just not what teenagers here tend to do, so it won't be showing up on instagram feeds.  So the majority in the middle who might be influenced to "age up," aren't being exposed to the same amount of pressure, and are content to do more low key 15 year old things for now.[/quote]

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