Anonymous wrote:I was taken advantage of at a college party when I was 17. I wouldn't characterize it as rape but I was drinking way too much and the fraternity boy was probably 20-21.

On a campus featuring thousands of female students, they're inviting high school girls for one reason: Gullible, low-alcohol tolerance, easy prey.

College men don't want to hear about your daughter's AP courses, they want to get her drunk and/or high to have sex with her.

You know it goes both ways. Plenty of girls enjoy getting drunk and hooking up too.

Anonymous wrote:I went to a Penn State Halloween party when I was 16 because my brother invited me for the weekend. He watched me like a hawk the entire time. It was fun and I learned never to drink grain alcohol again.

Drinking grain alcohol at 16, does not indicate that your brother was doing a good job of watching you like a hawk.

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Anonymous wrote:We removed our DD from this area because this was the norm in eighth grade! Eighth grade! DD is happily away enjoying being a fifteen year old and sitting around bonfires and pajama parties with all night movies. Boring, possibly to some, but I revel in her being able to just be a girl without all the pressures she faced at her dc private. And so does she.

Removed your DD from the area? What? This happens literally all over the country. If your DD isn't into college parties, she is just as likely to do normal teen things here as she is anywhere else. Weird.

I'm not PP, but I disagree. On the margins, there are teenagers who would be the same no matter where they lived or who their peers were.

Some kids are natural risk-takers and boundary-pushers who like to be the first ones to try older kid things or push the limits of what they can get away with. Whether they're at a DC private or a small town public school, they'd go find trouble.

On the other end, some kids are wired the complete opposite. They're low-key and non boundary-pushers by nature. Happy to do normal kid/teen things with absolutey no interest or curiosity about aging up, regardless of what their peers are doing.

But most kids are in the middle. They have their own tendencies and personality, but they're aware and influenced by the social norm of their environment. Put them in certain DC-area privates (or publics, for that matter), and they're world of options -- and behavior -- will be different than if they're in a less affluent or less cosmopolitan (for lack of a better word) community.

We now live far from the DC area in a close-in suburb to a smaller, more midwestern city. It's not the big DC life, for sure. But it's not the middle of nowhere, either. Even so, I don't know a single 9 or 10 year old who has a phone. Not one. And very few of the the older kids with phones actually have the latest and greatest models. It's just not the social norm, and my kids wouldn't even think to want or ask for that because it's not what they're seeing around them.

Same with getting dressed up like 20 year olds and hanging out at college parties. It's just not what teenagers here tend to do, so it won't be showing up on instagram feeds. So the majority in the middle who might be influenced to "age up," aren't being exposed to the same amount of pressure, and are content to do more low key 15 year old things for now.

I think pp's are chiming in about the neurotic moms, of which there are plenty.

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Anonymous wrote:When I read posts like this, I sometimes wonder if I'm the only person in the DC area who actually went to high school herself. No, I wouldn't want my high schoolers going to drunken college parties, but how is it shocking to anyone that this happens? It happened when we were kids, why would our kids be different? Know your kids, know your kids friends, have a check-in system, make sure they know your expectation and the consequences for failing to meet them. It's not a guarantee that they won't get in trouble, but it goes a long way.

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Judging and trying to police other peoples' children only draws attention to you and your child, and gets you and your child shunned. Mind your own house and mind your own children and stop worrying about WTH everyone else is doing - because you really have no idea. None.

If being accepted by a group involves having your teenage HS kid going to frat parties and who knows what else....maybe being shunned is not a bad thing? Just sayin'.

Point being these outrageous stories 1.) have very little credence and 2.) are usually started by the gossip mongering mean moms who want to accuse "other kids" of doing wrong, when they don't even discipline their own out of control child. and 3.) it's always someone else's kid that is to blame, isn't it (usually the American kids -- of they have a single mom, all the better to blame them). I am foreign, and I know what this crap is about, and it is despicable. That way, I can claim that my child is "perfect", and any wrongs committed are by Bobby down the street, "not my kid!!"

So wait - you're saying that a mom who actually sees the pictures of the scantily clad Halloween costumes via Instagram, must be a "gossip mongering mean mom" if she brings it up here on an anonymous website? Lady, you seem to be taking all of this very seriously indeed. Why is that? If anything, your posts here make you out to be the mean mom.

What I think is that some people like drama. For example. ^^^

Right, but the bolded PPP (you?) wasn't dramatic.

No, it wasn't.

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Anonymous wrote:When I read posts like this, I sometimes wonder if I'm the only person in the DC area who actually went to high school herself. No, I wouldn't want my high schoolers going to drunken college parties, but how is it shocking to anyone that this happens? It happened when we were kids, why would our kids be different? Know your kids, know your kids friends, have a check-in system, make sure they know your expectation and the consequences for failing to meet them. It's not a guarantee that they won't get in trouble, but it goes a long way.

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Judging and trying to police other peoples' children only draws attention to you and your child, and gets you and your child shunned. Mind your own house and mind your own children and stop worrying about WTH everyone else is doing - because you really have no idea. None.

If being accepted by a group involves having your teenage HS kid going to frat parties and who knows what else....maybe being shunned is not a bad thing? Just sayin'.

Point being these outrageous stories 1.) have very little credence and 2.) are usually started by the gossip mongering mean moms who want to accuse "other kids" of doing wrong, when they don't even discipline their own out of control child. and 3.) it's always someone else's kid that is to blame, isn't it (usually the American kids -- of they have a single mom, all the better to blame them). I am foreign, and I know what this crap is about, and it is despicable. That way, I can claim that my child is "perfect", and any wrongs committed are by Bobby down the street, "not my kid!!"

So wait - you're saying that a mom who actually sees the pictures of the scantily clad Halloween costumes via Instagram, must be a "gossip mongering mean mom" if she brings it up here on an anonymous website? Lady, you seem to be taking all of this very seriously indeed. Why is that? If anything, your posts here make you out to be the mean mom.

What I think is that some people like drama. For example. ^^^

Right, but the bolded PPP (you?) wasn't dramatic.

No, it wasn't.

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Anonymous wrote:When I read posts like this, I sometimes wonder if I'm the only person in the DC area who actually went to high school herself. No, I wouldn't want my high schoolers going to drunken college parties, but how is it shocking to anyone that this happens? It happened when we were kids, why would our kids be different? Know your kids, know your kids friends, have a check-in system, make sure they know your expectation and the consequences for failing to meet them. It's not a guarantee that they won't get in trouble, but it goes a long way.

+1

Judging and trying to police other peoples' children only draws attention to you and your child, and gets you and your child shunned. Mind your own house and mind your own children and stop worrying about WTH everyone else is doing - because you really have no idea. None.

If being accepted by a group involves having your teenage HS kid going to frat parties and who knows what else....maybe being shunned is not a bad thing? Just sayin'.

Point being these outrageous stories 1.) have very little credence and 2.) are usually started by the gossip mongering mean moms who want to accuse "other kids" of doing wrong, when they don't even discipline their own out of control child. and 3.) it's always someone else's kid that is to blame, isn't it (usually the American kids -- of they have a single mom, all the better to blame them). I am foreign, and I know what this crap is about, and it is despicable. That way, I can claim that my child is "perfect", and any wrongs committed are by Bobby down the street, "not my kid!!"

So wait - you're saying that a mom who actually sees the pictures of the scantily clad Halloween costumes via Instagram, must be a "gossip mongering mean mom" if she brings it up here on an anonymous website? Lady, you seem to be taking all of this very seriously indeed. Why is that? If anything, your posts here make you out to be the mean mom.

What I think is that some people like drama. For example. ^^^

Right, but the bolded PPP (you?) wasn't dramatic.

Anonymous wrote:Why do you cane what other people do with their kids? Even if you don't understand why a parent would allow this, these are not your kids. It's not your business how other people parent their kids, as long as they are not abusing them. Mind your own business.

PP here. This is EXACTLY what I am saying. Don't be the troublemaker anxiety ridden mom.

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Yes, EVERY teen girl is overtly or secretly a wild drunken trollop. You're just trying to rationalize you and/or your daughter's degenerate behavior.

Bonus points for getting "trollop" and "degenerate" into a two-sentence post, PP.