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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel that this is a consequence of helping our kids with everything, teachers who are afraid of the fallout if they fail a kid, kids always being given extra credit opportunities if they failed at something. That just isn’t real life. When you get so used to having things given to you, or laid out in such a way that it’s impossible for you to fail, you lose out on sharpening the tools of competing, working for something, earning your place. Many kids today just haven’t had to really EARN anything. I coached a collegiate sport and even in college, sure, the kids have a difficult test or something, but the professors and the school hold 17 review sessions and give them all the answers in advance. That’s not teaching any kind of skill other than memorization. It’s not working to help this generation. [/quote]

As a teacher, I agree with you. A lot of parents just don't understand this, however. Then they get in administration's ear when they believe their child has been slighted in the slightest way and admin challenges our decisions because they don't want to have to hear about it. It's a vicious cycle. [/quote]

As a parent of a 21, 17, and 14 year old, I also agree.  One other thing I've noticed is that parents don't do anything to help manage their kids' expectations about what it means to get started as an adult.  We made our oldest live at college, although he could have commuted, because he didn't want to have to live somewhere that wasn't as nice as his room at home.  Parents have to be willing to let their kids know and experience the life of a young, "poorer" person rather than helping them expect that they're entitled to at 22 what it took their parents a lifetime to achieve.

My oldest graduates in December and will start a professional job in his field in January.  [/quote]

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