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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I get a kick out of some posters believing all one has to do is declare to your boss you are going to go part time, telecommute, find a better job that pays double what you make yet still go part time or telecommute. You people have DCitis and don't know how the real world is. My husband's admin tried the above. She was fired. Last I heard she was working for another company and working longer hours for less pay. And those 10 plus years of vacation time, sick days, whatever ?  They no longer count in her new job. She's starting over from scratch.

When the decision to become a SAHM is made, sacrifices kick in and it's not easy. OP's in a particularly painful position. The reality is she cannot quit working because her husband's health doesn't allow it.  We all didn't marry Mr. Money Bags.

Her wants no longer matter.  Life is mean sometimes. [/quote]

Exactly this. These decisions are not easy and have professional consequences. Moreover, being the sole breadwinner (as her husband would be, if she SAH) is stressful, and stress is terrible for someone with MS. It can lead to accelerated disease progression.[/quote]

I'm one of the PPs who shared our similar experience and how I kept working...I wish I could have just declared I was going to go part time or 100% remote! I had to basically change fields to do it and there were definitely sacrifices. I also get annoyed at the posters who offer one-liners like "find a telecommuting job" as if it's so easy. It's really, really not. You have to first be positioned well and then be lucky. And yeah, there are many families where the DH - for whatever reason - can't be the sole breadwinner. Or doesn't want to be. Or whatever! And there's this implicit double standard on this board that the women should get to say "I quit" after the kids come along and the husbands should be ok with whatever sacrifices come along with that decision because it's FOR THE CHILDREN. And yet we are so quick to attack a DH who is anything less than 100% capable of 24/7 providership in that same 2 WOH parent scenario.[/quote]

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