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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do all the time. That's how you get them to do more. Duh![/quote]

THis. They're like puppies sometimes. Only positive reinforcement works. But it does work!! And my dh is generally very awesome. Be we had conversations about some chores etc and he said it really motivates him when I notice he did whatever. So I go with it. He does a good job thanking me as well and showing alleviation in other ways. [/quote]

There was a NY Times Modern Love column along these lines once - by an animal trainer who used the same methods on her spouse:

http://www.nytimes.com/2006/06/25/fashion/25love.html

My husband is definitely more likely to do things that I thank him for. But there are plenty of things I try to get him to do or not to do that I can't do anything about. Some of those things we fight about. I'm sure it's the same with me. I thrive on praise, even stupid praise for small things - and no I am not a millennial - so I think he's learned to use that on me, too. It's a pretty grateful and peaceful household overall![/quote]

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