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Crazy, huh? I don't know what you think it takes to accomplish these things, but I have a decent idea because I WAH. It's probably 2 hours or less, and all done while DS is napping. If he's fussy/won't sleep etc, then she doesn't get stuff done. No big deal, and she knows that. Do you think that SAHP's don't do these things while caring for an infant? Do you also think that if you have an infant and an older child that you need a second nanny because a nanny can't possibly handle running after a toddler while caring for an infant? Though I should clarify that I had 4+ mos maternity leaves for both kids, and older DD started pre-school before DS was born. I guess if you are thinking about a newborn, then it would be difficult.

FWIW, she only does kids' laundry and washes sheets/towels once a week. We do our own laundry. Most nannies do children's laundry and prepare children's meals (we have an older kid, so she'd be cooking for her anyway), so there isn't a lot of extra work. She's not cooking gourmet french meals or anything.[/quote]
Doing children's laundry and making children's meals is within the job description (although I'd be sure to clarify that ahead of time when you hire her.) But most nannies absolutely do not do the family's laundry and grocery shopping.  I did not expect my nanny to be the same as a SAHP.  I wanted her to do childcare, not housework.  [/quote]
You need to learn reading comprehension. I noted that explicitly...but I pointed out that it isn't that much extra work. My older DD loves going to the grocery store on her way home from school, and so does DS. It's an outing for them...one that's often recommended as good for child development if you talk to kids about what they're seeing while shopping.

Anyway, for OP, what's in the job description is what you put in the job description. It seems like daycare where you don't put the kid in when your mom's around or a FT nanny are both options depending on your preference. I think enough of us have posted here to make you feel comfortable that you can find a good nanny who also won't be offended if you ask her to do something non-childcare related. IME, you will pay more for such a nanny, and you need to be very up front about your expectations when you hire her.[/quote]

You're still not being clear on what the work was.  Picking up an item you forgot at the store once in a while when they walk past it on the way home is not the same as "meal planning and grocery shopping" as permanent, ongoing duties for the whole family.

I don't doubt that there are some nannies who don't mind housework and will agree to do it. My nannies spontaneously started emptying the dishwasher and doing any dishes left in the since, which was amazing ... and very much not required.  The fact is, if you try to REQUIRE your nanny to do a significant load of non-child related housework, you better be prepared to pay her more than the going rate for it.  Because the standard nanny job in DC does NOT involve a ton of housework, and the good nannies don't have to take every job offered to them.  And nannies talk to each other, so they know very well what kind of employers are out there.  [/quote]

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