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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, you're saying things have changed, that he's made an effort, that he seems to recognize he made past mistakes. You need to forgive and move on. Focus on your present and future, rather than dwelling on the past. Wallowing on past wrongs that the other person has made an effort to address is only hurting you.[/quote]

That's basically what I told my therapist.

She cautioned me against that type of thinking, because with his drinking habits, what am I going to do if he starts the same behavior 5 years from now? Hanging out with his family 5 days a week and gettinb hammered? This sass 2 years of constant behaviour versus six months of moderate change.[/quote]

I think you misunderstood what your therapist told you. There's a difference between not holding on to past mistakes and being resentful and not being a fool.

Punishing him and his parents now for what happened in the past is not productive.

You can still be wise and notice things like if he  starts to fall into old paterns  and not live bein angry.[/quote]

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