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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Perfectly normal. You will actually benefit more from this friendship down the road than he will. Think about it, when you have an issue with him and need to seek advice outside your marriage, you will seek a one of your good friends. When he does this, he will get a female perspective rather than the male caveman perspective.

It's fine. Don't sweat it. The more you sweat it, the bigger the issue will become in your relationship.[/quote]

No, its not perfectly normal. A married man shouldn't communicating with another woman (besides his wife) multiple times a day and texting at night. He's talking with her daily on his way to work? WTF.  He is having an emotional affair. Frankly you should have addressed this while you were still dating.

Assuming it would suddenly stop once you got married was a foolish thought.  He is putting time and energy into this woman, and not you, his wife. And just wait - once you DH start having issues...who do you think he'll run to for comfort and consoling?....Talk to him about it now. He may gaslight you and say you are paranoid. He may ask why you didn't bring it up while you were still dating....nevertheless, it needs to be addressed and he needs to scale it way back out of respect for you. What he is doing is disrespectful to you and your marriage.[/quote]

No wonder you drove your husband away. Sorry things didn't work out but now you know why.[/quote]

I can't believe some of you think OP's husband's behavior is "normal". It is not. This is not the "normal" behavior of a platonic male/female friendship. This is much more. And by the way, I'm happily married. My husband doesn't have any female friends. If he did, I'd be fine with it - assuming it was a 'normal" friendship. Not the relationship OP describes. If my husband was on a daily basis texting and calling and spending that much time with another woman, our marriage would have never happened in the first place. I dated a guy like this..was talking to her daily, going on "dates" with her to lunch and dinner.....told me nothing was going on.....guess what? There was. He hooked up with her several times, and finally admitted it to me. 
If your gut says something is off - it is. .....Those of you who think this is normal are completely naive. Ask a couples therapist about the amount of communication your husband is having with this woman - I"m 100% certain they will tell you it is excessive, not normal, and destructive to your marriage.[/quote]

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