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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The real problem is that what makes a man appealing to a woman, on average, and what makes a woman appealing to a man, on average, is not symmetric.

For men, career success is strongly appealing to potential mates, so their prospects in the dating market improve as they succeed professionally.  Often very, very substantially.

Many successful women see this, and expect a similar thing to occur for them.  But men don't find professional success in a mate nearly as important a consideration as most women do, so there is often a gap between how a successful woman expects the dating market to react to her success, and how it actually does.

This is often misattributed to men being "threatened" by successful women or being a lawyer as the "kiss of death." Of course some men react in this way, but the real driver is the fact that career success (or lack thereof) is a very marginal consideration in mate selection for most men.   [/quote]

I think it's more complicated than that.  Take work hours.  Presumably the male partners work just as many hours and are just as wedded to their phones as the female partners.  Yet a pp said many of the males partner at the firms are married WITH children while far lower rates for the female partners.  The guys here mention dating awesome workaholics female lawyers that had the relationship  fizzle due to lack of time. Unless every single male partner is finding their mate before the long work hours start, they are finding women that are willing to put up with his work being a priority.  Say what you want but I think it's easier for a guy to find a woman that is willing to  make him the center of her world than the other way around.  I also remember the thread where a ton of guys that wanted the highly educated, ambitious wife also wanted her to be willing to put that on hold to support his career.

Of the female lawyers I know either they are SAHM, went part-time, or government job or in-house counsel with family friendly hours or they have a husband that does way more than the stereotypical guy and has a career like IT manager or  teacher/educator.  [/quote]

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