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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So interesting to me how people on this thread are so easily willing to call OP "selfish" for wanting to invest in herself, [b]when that is exactly what the OP's DH did for 15 years - taking the family money and time and investing it solely in himself. [/b]

Also interesting to me is that many in thread want OP to be able to ensure an ROI in a way that isn't clear was applied to the DH.  And, if one really wants to talk about being obligated to act in the best interests of the family, well than DH's insistence that the family spend 15 years investing iin him only is not the wisest financial play.  Better would to invest to maximize both parents in the workplace.  This also spreads risk and strengthens family to be resilient financially in case of unexpected problems.

Really a lot of sexism in this thread.[/quote]

No.  Instead most posters are probably not judging the husband because he earned a degree that is required for his job and still has this job. op doesn't have a concrete plan for starting a business and has admitted she doesn't really like working.  There's a huge difference.

I think you're kind of sexist for assuming the other posters are being sexist.  Get it?

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No. Most people are thinking his 1st wife (OP) supported him to get him where he is now and there is a huge risk he could take those skills with him in a divorce and he owes it to his wife to let her build her resume up in the same way so she can be successful in her own right. He also is holding her back to limit her possibilities in case she decided to divorce.[/quote]

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