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[quote=Anonymous]Op here and wow, overwhelmed by all the thoughtful responses here.  After writing it out, thinking it through, and hearing the perspectives here, I am leaning toward the belief that DH is just both thinking practically, perhaps somewhat selfishly, and just really intellectually against the idea of throwing any more money at post undergrad education. Not trying to keep me down. He's read philosophy books that are anti-education. He even suggested an apprenticeship instead.  He's not controlling. On the contrary, he wants me to go back to work once the kids are older, because he has been feeling the pressure of being the sole income earner the past year.

For me, this education thing has been a sore spot in our relationship-because he's always discouraged it for me. Meanwhile I've always valued education, and beyond practical applications, viewed it as something I can do for me.  The social interaction, intellectual challenge, and confidence that comes from learning.

I want DH's support because it will require some commitment from him as well. I can't just take classes when I'm taking care of little ones without some support. It's an investment of time and money for our whole family.

He knows I can run a business, I ran a sole proprietorship for well over a decade. I enjoyed it and flourished in the beginning. But the last few years were a grind for me, especially after kids. I know how to write a business plan.

I haven't just started moving forward on things because right now I have my hands full with the kids. But once my youngest starts preschool in the fall, that will free up some time for me to pursue my path. I'm just thinking ahead on what I want to do after that.

Pp's have been extremely helpful, esp in regard to options that are open for me.  I'm not looking for a degree. I have looked into free and paid online courses.  I will likely do some in the fall once my youngest is in preschool. I've taken some online courses in the past, as well as classroom courses. I just learn better in the classroom and enjoy them much more. Online courses are so isolating, and just requires a lot more constant self-motivation to get through. And I've come to hate spending so much time in front of a screen.  I would definitely prefer taking courses in the classroom, but may still opt for online for practical reasons.

Thanks for the feedback, I appreciate it.  Oh and to clarify, DH only changed course on his career path once.  And he only had debt from his undergrad and professional degrees. Graduate degree was full scholarship. But still a lot.  And I would not consider our HHI low, but yes, we have the school debt and a mortgage and a couple college funds to start growing. [/quote]

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