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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm OK with it because my DH has to be OK with my dining alone with other men. It's part of business. I often have to have breakfast, lunch or dinner with clients and I can't pick their gender. I have been hit on by potential males clients who instantly become ex-potential clients. Very early in my career (late 80's) I was hit on by a couple of higher ups in the company I worked for (ala Bill O'Reilly) and that was really creepy. Back then there was no HR process to really deal with it so I just politely said thanks but no thanks I'm happily married. I didn't stick around very long! I did ask my DH if he had ever been hit on by a female at dinner and he laughingly said "other than you, sadly, no!" FWIW, we were once co-workers and I did hit on him at lunch one day and we have been together ever since![/quote]

I don't have to meet with clients for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, but in past jobs, I was heavily hit on by men at work.  For a while I wondered if men are just creeps, but I have seen in past jobs how some women indulge it.  They may not do anything physical, but they definitely indulge the flirting.  Sadly, I've seen how this has helped them professionally.  I put up my guard and don't indulge flirting.  I am not hostile, but I shut that stuff down really fast.  In some ways, I think it has hurt me professionally.  The flirting for some women was an entry into the "boys' club" and was really the only entry in for a woman.

In one past job, I went to a professional convention, and it was astonishing how much hooking up went on.

Sadly, I think that stuff happens a lot.  But the solution isn't to restrict your spouse from one-on-one meetings with members of the opposite sex.  [/quote]

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