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[quote=Anonymous]Op you seem to have some serious insecurity and neediness  issues.  Kids really pick up on that and can be brutal about it.  If you go to therapy and work on your self esteem and confidence it will probably go a long way toward improving your relationship with your son, instead of thinking your husband can somehow fix it for you.  Keep in mind that even if your husband was (god forbid) out of the picture you would not be guaranteed your son's attention and affection.

Meanwhile, you really can't ask your husband to be babysitting both of you, and your need for attention right when your spouse is dealing with your child's acting out under very tough conditions is disconcerting.  I'm not  surprised he snapped at you because, in dealing with two attention seekers one expects that the adult one should really know better.  Your dh needs a partner!  This means you need to rise above hurt feelings; know that you can't take preferences personally when it comes from a child, and find another way to pitch in and help out in a tough situation. Instead you had a tantrum, and made it all about you instead of the kid.

Also realize DH really can't do much to help you with your relationship with the kid.  you seem to blame him or his father for causing the problems, but that's very unlikely.

Parenting is a marathon, your kid might very well 'hate' his dad in another phase or act out in other embarrassing ways.  If you are insecure and needy enough to let these things get to you, it will make things very tough on everyone, and likely drive your son further away. [/quote]

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