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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't understand how you don't fight. I mean, not huge yelling matches, but normal fighting.

Do you see every single thing in your life the exact same way? Or do you just back down whenever there is conflict b/c you hate conflict?

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We disagree. But we don't fight. I do back down when there is conflict. He does, too, sometimes. It definitely makes me uncomfortable.

How do I make sure my children know how to respectfully fight when we don't model it?

What is 'normal fighting?' That is exactly why I'm asking, because I don't think we do that any longer.[/quote]

I agree that conflict resolution is an important skill to learn, especially to model for your children. Don't use an angry voice, or accusatory language, but simply state how you feel, like "When you work late every night and then want to go out with your buddies on the weekend, it makes me feel . . . " And it always helps to have a concrete thing that you would like. So when he says, "What do you want from me?" or something, you can say, "I would love to have family dinners twice a week, and one night a weekend that was just for us."

Something like that, so you have an actual goal you are working towards and are not just venting and saying mean things.[/quote]

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