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[quote=Anonymous]It's not ridiculous, but your husband's wishes are as valid and strong and reasonable as your desires; add to that the risks he may not want to take about health, special needs child, finances, whatever which should be respected.  I think if the argument was 1 vs 2 children, I would be on the fence but after 3,  I think its reaonsable to say ...enough.

fwiw, I have friends with 4 kids. Going from 3 to 4 was hard on the oldest one, who rarely gets attention because she is self-sufficient, and the youngest, who didn't get to have the baby stage for long. Mom is happy, but it has been hardest on the dad, who in this case is the sole breadwinner. 4 kids meant: selling the car for a mini van, meant traveling anywhere is 6 plane tickets, meant an uptick in EVERYONE getting sick, meant that putting 4 kids to bed left very little time for adult conversation and bonding. Its also very hard for him to deal with all 4 kids on his own, which means that either she never exercises, goes out with friends, etc, or they get a sitter (hard on their income) or he is frantic at work and then frantic at home. Everyone is different, but I can imagine in this scenario the husband feels completely left out. [/quote]

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