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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was 1 of 4 and wish my parents didn't have this many. Fun and cute when little - but now all 4 of us are dealing with life problems and it is stressing out my parents because they want to help, and can't because they can only help 1, not 4.

And to the person who thinks it is a gift to have a big family - speak for yourself, it an be very painful, too.[/quote]

Anecdotally it can go either way.

I'm an only child and wish that I had siblings especially as an adult. It sounds like you had a fun childhood with your siblings, I was very lonely growing up, especially since we moved frequently so I don't even have an attachment to a hometown. Now that I'm an adult, I also have the added pressure of being the only one who will deal with my parents' health care and end of life decisions. My DH has siblings and it's a completely different dynamic with his side of the family. His brothers are there for support in difficult times and it makes a world of difference. With my parents, everything is on me. No help. No support. Just me. Alone. It sucks. [/quote]

Oh geez. Get a grip. I have 2 siblings and I was the only one to support and care for my parents. yes, it's hard, but having 2 other decision makers complicated matters, especially when their ideas for care were appalling. I ad to take matters in =to my own hands and wouldn't have it any other way. And - growing up, I also felt lonely. No one can escape these feelings.
My husband has one sibling and they are not even speaking to each other because of the way end of life care was handled for their parent. If you could be on the same page as everyone else, it could be a godsend to have extra support, but if you aren't, it adds so much more to an already stressful situation.[/quote]

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