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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree with the "flippant" poster.

So what?

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You and the pp saying they would worry if their kid never got drunk are not normal.  Sorry!  But, the science is in and  teens' brains do not mature until age 25.  They are doing serious damage to their brain, liver, etc.  and you should care.  Sure, once isn't going to make someone an alcoholic but, you build up your tolerance for it and then you need more and more to get drunk.

Because you answered the way you did than your opinion is really meaningless and the op should ignore.[/quote]

Well, when you send young, healthy adults to a university they are going to do what young, healthy adults do.  And sometimes they will go to parties to socialize and there will be alcohol there.  Not cake and ice cream, but alcohol.  These are not HS teenagers being monitored by Mom and Dad anymore.

Infantalizing a 20 year old is more harmful - in my opinion - than allowing that kid to spread his wings, have fun, learn about life a little bit.  Making it illegal for a HS grad to have a freakin' beer is ridiculous.  Insisting that a person isn't really a grown up until they are 25 is sad to me.

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Np here. ^pp must be a kid. Explaining health consequences is not infantilizing, he'll still make his own choices. And brain development ends at age 25, proven, has nothing to do with legal age. I think this ^one fried their brain cells already. [/quote]

25 year old adults are not mentally children.  Just because their brain development hasn't quite ended does not mean that they are not fully grown, functioning  adults.  Yes, they are still young and relatively inexperienced compared to, say, a 35 year old.  But I can say the same thing about a 35 year old vs 55 year old.

We mature as we age.  The average 18 year old is old enough to self monitor and make personal choices all by themselves.  And the fact is, an 18 year old who wants to binge drink and drive drunk is already doing that.  The law is not going to stop them.[/quote]
Pp here. Brain development is not the same as maturation. How can you equate them? [b]Maturation is at any age. Brain development means it it still physiologically forming/not done growing until age 25. It is the most important organ and is the last to finish developing and finish growing.[/b] Maturing is not the point. There is not difference at all in brain development between 35 & 55 because it isnt developing as it rises through those ages. In fact, it is decompensating through the older years, which is why you want to give it it's best shot to optimize and maximize through the younger years.[/quote]

The science is very clear on this.  Drinking before the brain is mature *will* have a permanent negative impact on brain development.  So will doing (other) drugs.

I don't expect my 19yo never to consume a beer prior to age 25 (although I would be happy if he made that choice).  But I have emphasized to him over and over again that alcohol abuse (which includes getting drunk) will compromise his brain development.  I have also told him that because we have alcoholism in the family, and because there is a genetic component to addictions, he needs to proceed with caution.[/quote]

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