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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is exactly why I never wanted an Au Pair.[/quote]
We just had a horrible first time au pair experience and fired her and dropped the agency. I was angry at losing the Hoge placement fee to the agancy (bc they completely misrepresented the au pair - she didn’t have the skills they said she had and she had mental health issues that the agency knew about), but I keep thinking maybe we dodged a bullet?[/quote]

You just bad luck.  We have only had positive experiences with our au pairs.[/quote]

We also had a terrible experience.  We used one of the more expensive agencies that specializes in au pairs that are slightly older with some work experience.   But she had criiplojng anxiety and could barely leave the house.  From talking to lots of friends and neighbors with au pairs, it seems like about 25% are super great, 50% are okay/fine/some issues, and 25% are just terrible or have significant issues.  [/quote]

I would never hire someone from a foreign country to live in my home and care for my child. Au pair companies don't vet these girls. The girls come here for "cultural exchange" and I know of two divorces due to the husband f*ing the au pair in my small North Arlington neighborhood over the past 10 years. [/quote]

We have hosted for a number of years, with no issues. We are friendly with all our former au pairs. Do not generalize. [/quote]

I came here just to say the same. One rotten apple should not spoil the whole barrel. We have been hosting for years. Some au pairs we have gotten closer to than others of course, but overall, we (including our children) have had a great experience. All of our au pairs have come here as professionals to improve their English. Within weeks, they feel like a family member. Yes, others have had bad experiences, but it's not ALL MURDER! Bad experiences can include bad attitudes, bad hygiene, poor professionalism, etc - all of which can also be experienced by day care providers and other nannies. The in-home bit makes it a bit tricky, but with open communication we the right support system, it has worked. [/quote]

Where did someone say it's all murder? Can you link?

It is inherently risky having a complete stranger from another country come and live in your home, esp because they are a young woman and it's not unheard of for them to have relationships with husbands.

Daycare providers don't live in your house. And they don't have that kind of intimate access to your husband. Nor are most daycare providers desperate for a green card and to marry in a short amount of time. Can lead to issues. Not murder, commonly, thank God!

Have an au pair if you want. The point of the post was Christine's QUOTE, not your childcare. [/quote]

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