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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DP. You definitely are the one in need of therapy if you think an affair is just a bit of sex that  hurts nobody.  It’s the way you justify your actions.  If you have been blindsided and thrust into PTSD you would understand.  It’s a worse feeling than a parent’s death.  There are entire practices devoted to affair/infidelity PTSD.  If you have a marriage where you do not live your spouse and it was a “settled” thing you did for finances or family/societal expectation, of course you would have zero empathy or idea how that feels when it’s done to you.  And these aren’t situations where there is no sex at home, quite the opposite.[/quote]

I've been blindsided by my DH's adultery and no, it's not worse than a parent's death.  I'd live through dozens of affairs before I would get over the death of my mom. [/quote]

DH’s adultery was a death for me. It was his death. The person I thought he was no longer existed, yet he was still walking around and just when I thought he was alive, he would do something that would make me realize that person was really dead.  Multiple repeated betrayals over a long period of time left me with complex PTSD.

If either of my parents die it will be an expected part of the cycle of life and many friends and family members will support me through it and I will have positive memories of my relationship with my mom and dad.   None of that applies to the walking dead zombie that is my ex.

My ex is [/quote]

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