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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Take it from an old timer here - you are busy because you want to be busy. Someone told this to me years ago and I thought they were totally off their rocker. As it turns out, they are right. Being busy is a CHOICE. You can rearrange your life to not be so busy. You don't have to keep up with the Joneses. You don't have to be in the rat race. You are CHOOSING to live your life this way. This takes a very long time to understand. But once you do, you can begin to peel back the layers and make changes that work for you and your family.[/quote]

This is good advice. Anything else you can impart on us? Maybe start a s/o thread? I love getting advice from been there, done that aged people. [/quote]

Haha thanks! I am glad as an "aged" person, I can impart some wisdom.  :wink: Seriously, this is something that took me a very long time to realize. I placed so much importance on being Superwoman - for my husband, my kids, my career, my home, my friendships, etc. etc. etc. Being busy was a hallmark of how Super I was. But I realized it was making me crazy and causing my family so much stress. We have learned to really pull back from the expectations that have been set out and do what is right for our family.

PS I also love getting advice from BTDT people on here - I have truly learned a lot from this forum and I think all of the people for sharing their experiences and perspectives![/quote]

So did you downsize your home and stop working? Curious what the true cure for business, marital resentment and a sucky DH is. [/quote]

No - similar to what a PP said - we worked/saved like crazy from graduation day to the day our first child was born, bought our house in a top school district and have never traded up since then. It was a nice house even then but not outrageously nice like it could've been if we traded up, like many of our friends have since done. We made that house decision willingly so we would be free to travel, aggressively save for retirement/college, life a nice day-to-day lifestyle, etc. Similar to PP, we also drive non-luxury brand cars. [/quote]

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