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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Another tracker here. We've had sex 14 times this year. [/quote]
I'm sorry.[/quote]

Thanks. It's not great. We've had discussions about low frequency being a problem in our marriage. Theoretically, she thinks that once a week would be a healthy frequency. In practice, this hasn't happened. I asked her to read a book I thought would be helpful; she read about 30 pages and now it's gone unread for a few months.

I posted in one of the other threads about how this has led to increased porn use by me, which - as I age - seems to be leading to some performance issues on my part. That, in turn, makes the sex not great and, I can see a downward spiral emerging. If I only have sex once a month, I feel the pressure to knock it out of the park whenever I get the opportunity. When that doesn't happen, I have another month to dwell on it. So, maybe we'll have to give scheduling a try. I'm not sure if she'll be up for it or if she'll regard it as pressure on her end that will make sex less enjoyable. [/quote]

Hi friend.  Most married men with kids don't have a lot of sex, join the club.

We schedule.  It helps, a lot.  For me, its not the porn or masturbation that affects performance.  Its the time between last ejaculation.  If its been a day, especially two days, I have the performance of a teenager.  Scheduling lets me save my energy for my wife for the scheduled day.  Then I don't have to be caught with an unloaded gun in the days after the scheduled date, and my wife doesn't have to worry about me trying to have sex with her.

Aside - I assume women reading us loser men whose wives don't want to sleep with them picture us old and fat, and the irony is I am none of those things, and neither are my friends in the same boat.  There is no way to tell pre-marriage who married the woman with the independent sex drive and who married the woman with the fragile sex drive that dies with exhaustion, kids, familiarity, and all those things my wife can't control.  [/quote]

You want some real irony? My husband has gotten fat - 40 pounds up since our marriage - and yet he gets all the sex he wants. Just because I'm high drive.  I would have sex 5X a week if he wanted to, but he doesn't.  Ironic.[/quote]

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