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You are pretty clueless about men's sex drive. People don't even notice a 10% difference of anything! Read this
http://citeseerx.ist.psu.edu/viewdoc/download?doi=10.1.1.186.5369&rep=rep1&type=pdf
If you had to ascribe a measurement, it is more like 100% (ie, average man's sex drive is double the average woman's)[/quote]

Why do you keep going back to drive when the real goal is satisfaction. Drive and frequency does not correlate to satisfaction.

also, it has nothing to do with intimacy.

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Well the research paper I linked directly refutes your notion that is just about social conditioning. The paper even provides examples where the male sex drive eclipses strong social conditioning which should oppose sex. (read the section "Sacrificing Resources to Get Sex").

Agree the goal is satisfaction. And sounds like you agree with the male's biological drive for sex.
What makes you think that sufficient quantities of ___ (fill in the blank, non-sexual) would ever satisfy this proven biological drive for sex?

"[b]Now suppose one of you fathers is asked by his son for a fish; he will not give him a snake instead of a fish, will he?"[/b][/quote]

This is exactly what I am saying.... men expect what they ask for. Their drive does not correlate to what they ask for ... 10 men with the same sex drive want different things... frequency.

If they get what they ask for... 1x a week/1x a day/1x a month... they are happy.

If they don't get what they ask for they are unhappy.

But, if they change their expectation, like most evolved humans, they can adapt and change their expectation... their expectation is not biological and not linked to drive. So when the baby comes, if they still expect sex 3 times a week and get it once a week, they are unhappy.

If they expect it once a week and get it they are happy.

It has nothing to do with drive, it has to do with expectation.

Successful marriages are adaptable, unsuccessful marriages try to swim upstream and wonder why the stream won't change directions. [/quote]

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