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[quote=Anonymous][quote]Not OP bit another guy. Story sounds familiar but unlike OP I had an affair. Met her at the gym and she was like the woman version of me. High sex drive, in shape, husband was find of a butterball and limp-worsted (her words). We had sex, dirty texts, she sent photos, gave me head (which wife hadn't done in years). I felt revitalizes but broke it off. I couldn't keep up, it took a lot of time. [b]How the hell did you manage two? I was super paranoid about being caught and covered my tracks. But still, that, the lying and time got to me.[/b][/quote]

They were not two affairs going on at once.  The first was a work colleague, also married, and was somewhat short lived.  She divorced her husband, which freaked me out because I thought she was going bunny boil me.  She said the affair made her realize what she was missing in life.  She went on to marry a man much older.  I vowed to never, ever get in that situation again.  Fast forward several years, and despite doing everything on the check list, DW and I still had a massive libido gap.  Flirting with a friend of a friend, turned into.....another affair, for a few months.

Yes, I am scum, I get it.  Wife has no clue.  Anonymous people would tell me to go to hell and my wife would be happier with the truth and a faithful man and my kids should be put through divorce and why did I kill Kennedy or the dinosaurs.

If there is a point to the story, it's simply this.  People who are low libido have no clue what years of rejection does.  It literally makes you insane.  Like, I knew, from past experience, that having an affair could cost me everything and I still went back there.  So I read OP's post and it was me, years ago.

I am older and my libido is down and DW's libido is up, and sex isn't an issue, I have no desire to cheat.  [/quote]

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