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[quote=Anonymous]My folks were hands off and I changed my major maybe 6 or 8 times.  Every once in a while I would mention it to my parents, usually when I was asking for another tuition check (I was at a Big 10 where tuition was charged by the credit hour).  The only time either of my folks spontaneously inquired about my major was when my dad called me two weeks before graduation to make sure that I had reconfirmed with the school that I had all the credits I needed to graduate with my major.  He didn't want to get there with my mom, siblings, two dogs and two sets of grandparents and have the whole thing fall through.

Oddly enough, DH and I have raised kids who like a much more consensus-style approach.  They talk to their sibs about their majors, they talk to us and they talk to their grandparents.  Even our 6 year-old can give a running monologue on the majors of his 3 college-age sibs.  We were a little worried about it at first because we thought we had done something wrong (that they weren't hell bent on making the choice alone) but finally we figured out that it was okay and we go with the flow.  Plus, since both of us end up talking with each of them at least once a day anyway, it would be a hard thing for them to keep secret!

In any event, we figure that they're all at good HYP schools and they know what their goals and plans are for the future.  So we don't doubt that they will make choices for their majors that will help them achieve those goals.  And since they all are on the full-ride Mom-and-Dad Scholarship Plan, we do have a vested financial interest.  I understand some of the arguments that other posters are making about it being their money ... but, honestly, the college expense (about $70k per child for us) is a drop in the bucket compared to the time and money we've already put into the children.  We're not going to start grandstanding now.[/quote]

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