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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a divorce attorney, I have seen fathers get primary custody only in three circumstances:

(1) Mom doesn't want custody (used to be unheard of early in my practice, but now, in my 23rd year of practice, roughly once a year, I come across a mom who doesn't want custody).

(2) Father is a stay at home dad or works very little and has been the kids' primary caretaker for a long time.

(3) Mom has severe and documented mental or substance abuse problems. If the problems aren't documented, the man will need a slew of witnesses with nothing to gain (so, for instance, kids' teacher but not dad's meddling mom who is eager to edge out biological mom).

I have never seen a man get primary custody against an [b]involved, normal mother[/b] who is fighting for custody. The most he can hope for is 50/50.[/quote]

Can you bracket normal for us? Is averagely flawed, with cause for the occasional nothing-to-gain-witness's disapproval OK? The story upthread of the mom with very little visitation rights because "she came across as angry and vindictive" is terrifying. If someone was using expensive lawyers that I couldn't afford to take my kids away from me, in addition to whatever had led to the divorce, I just might come across as angry and vindictive too.[/quote]

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