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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am looking for ideas how to make amends with my wife. We had a child 1.5 years ago and for the past 7 mo, I got back back in contact with someone I used to date long distance. Innocent conversations about family turned to flirting and she found my texts. She is hurt and wants out. I apologized profusely and never intended for this to go anywhere. None of the begging or heart felt apologies seem to work as she said it doesn't feel genuine. I've tried taking her to a nice dinner to no avail. She's not looking for an expensive gift. She didn't like the flowers I bought. I've been going to counseling and just asked her to join me. Counselor suggested I try some grand gestures. I need some ideas to make amends, but other than a trip, I don't have anything that can help us with bonding and show that I am truly sorry.

Any ideas to help mend a heart?[/quote]

I did the same thing under pretty much the same circumstances.  I know why you did it, I understand.  It doesn't make it right.  My wife wasn't as adamant about divorce as yours seems to be but she felt betrayed.  Go to therapy and work on it and most of all be honest and open.  You both need to be open and honest with each other and you should always have access to each other's phones, messages etc.  it will take time, you betrayed her trust and that's huge.  For women, entitled al affairs are worse, you're investing time into another woman instead of her.

If you're really sorry, and I believe you are - just understand it will take time to earn that back but she'll probably question everything you do from a long time.  Beyond that, she has to learn to move on and therapy will help with that.  You both should go.[/quote]

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