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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You've got nothing to lose by going with her to a marriage/sex therapist. They can facilitate you both being able to communicate and hear each other's needs, and understand how serious the situation is. The fact that your wife cries and feels bad when you bring it up should tell you you both need help.

Maybe on her side, she feels as frustrated and helpless, in her way. Get professional help, and then get back to us. The two of you muddling along, not really communicating, is not going to change anything for the better.[/quote]

That's not really going to work I'm afraid.  I went through a similar story.  What I found was sparse sex for a year and a half - were talking every three months - didn't change.  After therapy and the therapist told her my side as she refused to listen to me and Incouldnt articulate without being frustrated - everything was fine for a about 8 or 9 months.  Things were good to the point we talked of having another kid as she wanted one.  Well, it has been months and we're back to the same pattern and I'm left hurt, frustrated and feel like I was just played.  I realize that if they don't match your libido or interested you're pretty much screwed.  I refuse to do this again and will move on.  The whole other kid thing is off the table completely and I'm planning an exit strategy so Indont get screwed out of seeing my awesome DC.  That's the only thing that frightens me at this point, but for all intense and purposes I've me checked out mentally. [/quote]

To add, have you ever been in the state where you've just checked out?  It's awful.  You just go through the motions every day and you feel you have nothing to fight for at home anymore.  She could serve me papers tomorrow and while I'd be worried I haven't planned on how I'll battle for custody, I wouldn't give a crap otherwise [/quote]

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