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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Mom of nerdy 15 year old here.  SO glad he is nerdy!!!  I don't have to worry about this ridiculous idea of sex at such a young age.  He doesn't have a girlfriend.  He is just interested in hanging out with his friends, doing his sports, and playing video games/watching movies.  So young and innocent, I know he won't be having sex any time soon.  I feel so sorry for you parents of the "fast crowd."
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I was an uber-nerd.  At 16, while on vacation, I met a nerdy girl.  We were both inexperienced.  Now, this was before AIDS was really known (1980).  Condoms were not really accessible for us.  We had sex within 18 hours of meeting.  We took no precautions.  We got lucky.
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And when I became sexually active in college I used birth control and so did my boyfriends.  Every single one of them.  See what a difference only 2 or 3 years make?

There is a difference between a child having a sex and a young adult having sex.  [/quote]  I'm not the person you quoted, but had my parents had a real and honest discussion with me about birth control and sex, the chances are pretty high that I too, as a 15 year old would have used birth control.   But they didn't, they never talked to me about sex, never about birth control.     People need to talk to their kids, and not just tell them "you should wait until...."  Sure tell them that, but then tell them why, tell them what happens after sex, when you know you are ready to have sex with someone, tell them yes, it feels good but there are emotions and consequences to it... etc etc. Have real honest conversations. And provide birth control if they need/want it.    My aunt was of  the mindset that her daughter wasn't old enough to have sex and was damn sure not providing birth control or even having a discussion about it because she was too young. Her daughter ended up pregnant at 14.

I think we can all say we would much prefer our children to be mature responsible adults before having sex, but the reality is that doesent always happen.  [/quote]

I will and have talked to my kids about sex.  They have both had basic sex ed.  They understand about condoms and know where to buy them.  BTW, both girls and guys can buy condoms and both should insist that the guy wear one.

I am not going to provide condoms to my kids.  If they are mature enough to have sex then they are old enough to buy and use the condoms.  Me stepping in and handling birth control for them gives them the impression that somehow they can still be kids about this and that an adult will step in and take care of these things for them.  [/quote]

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