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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Usually whoever asked for the first date, pays. When the relationship progresses, people take turns.

But usually it's a good idea to keep first dates modest in terms of money and time investment. [b] Go out for coffee. If you end up not liking her (or him), it's like half an hour and 10 bucks.[/b]  Easy. [/quote]

I preferred to keep first time meetups to cofee and preferably where I could go up and order my own coffee or the person offers to get my cofee up front (not expected and I might have already gotten my coffee). This way at worst, I've spent  $5.00 getting a coffee I would have gotten myself anyway or from his perspective he has spent $10 total including his own coffee.

I do think to some extent the person that issues the invitation should pay whether you have a good time or not. Only invite someone to a venue that you are happy to pay for good time or not. While not exactly the same, I have been at those big gatherings with friends and friends of friends where we all split the bill it it has cost me $15-20 more than I would have paid had I just paid for my stuff, but I suck it up because that's how it goes at those big group gatherings.  There was one where I had an awful time and I think that was what turned me off of going to gatherings like that ever again. There isn't a good manners clause like if I have a good time and like my friend's friends will I be willing to pay for other people's beers but if I am having a sucky time I get to pay for my one beer when everyone wants to split the bill.  If I don't feel like dealing with all that, I simply won't agree to go to those venues/gatherings upfront. If I agree the go, I roll the dice and the money is committed good time to not.
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