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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If she can explain that her goal isn't to have him socialize more, or to have him do things on her terms, but that her main goal is to stop fighting about invitations, then they can hopefully engage in some positive problem-solving.  My solution was an example.  If he mainly wants time alone, then being assured that he will only have to sacrifice 9 hours a month of alone time might be great for him.  If he wants her to stop going out and stay in together, then they can include that.  That's how a solution-oriented conversation works, kids.[/quote]

PP here, I agree they need to stop fighting about invitations but maybe her husband's goal is for OP to feel comfortable going on her own and not ask beyond a courtesy invite.   As far as we know the OP's husband doesn't resent her going to social events he just has an issue with her pressuring him to go and making it seem like there is something wrong with him that needs to be fixed/he is falling down on the job proving he loves her enough to go.   Seriously, if he isn't excited to talk to neighbors he likes in the driveway, why would you think he would be all a flutter about game night? It's  fine for you to think its cool and him to think its not something he wants do as long as you aren't making him go and he isn't making you stay home.[/quote]

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