Reply to DH's anti-social nature causing resentment

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "DH's anti-social nature causing resentment "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again - one more thing to add.  I think what spurred this was a recent invite - for a Friday night casual game night - and instead of thinking "cool, this should be fun!" I instead thought "great, here comes another dramatic sigh from him and me feeling like I'm asking the world."  It's just hard.[/quote]

I haven't read the rest of the responses but I'm going to give it to you straight.  You either have to get comfortable going to couples and family events alone, get new friends that don't always want to do couples things, or get a new spouse. The problem sounds like the bulk of these social events are things where you feel out of place without DH.  If your single BFF hosted a game night with just the ladies it would have been 100% fine that your DH enjoys staying home, even better because you don't need to feel guilty about him having all the childcare duties that evening. Suddenly if for the exact same game night your BFF makes it a couples thing you now feel pressure to have DH attend because everyone else's DH will be there.  I can get why DH doesn't find it enjoyable.  I honestly hated going to most couple with kid events when the kids were young.  Usually one of us had to make sure our kids weren't running around crazy, had food to eat, weren't having a meltdown etc, and while you were doing that it was hard to have more than a five minute conversation and actually enjoy yourself.  It was not relaxing to me at all.  I can understand why you don't want to have both kids on your own but at the same time it can't be enjoyable for DH to have his options be to run around after the children the whole time (probably easier to do that  on your home turf), make small talk when he would rather poke his eye out, or try to talk to you which again he could do at home.

I think about those social communities where people drop by and have happy hours at a home etc.  While my DH is friendly and we like our neighbor's and talk to them, he has no interest in being social like that.  I think if I wanted to socialize like that I would need to be comfortable going to mostly ladies only events like book club and bunko and saying my husband couldn't make it to the couples events.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics