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[quote=Anonymous]Sounds like he is under pressure from you to "live up to his potential" (i.e. stop getting mediocre grades) and is lashing out at you in response.  He is trying to turn it around on you as a defense mechanism/distraction.  I don't think punishment is the answer here - you can't punish a kid into not being an asshole.  I think you need to say something like "DS, you can't even imagine how hurtful it is to hear you put down the career I love and have worked hard at all my life.  It makes me think that you think the only worthwhile goal in life is earning as much money as possible, and that helping people and spending time with family doesn't matter.  Please tell me that I'm wrong and that there is something else going on here."  You also need to tell him that "living up to your potential" doesn't have to mean doing the most prestigious or lucrative thing - it means working hard and doing your best so you have as many options as possible for your career and future, and you don't lose out on opportunities.

Separately, I think you need to figure out why he is struggling in school and help him with that.  If he is succeeding in school he will stop feeling insecure and hopefully will stop lashing out at you.  He is going to be so embarrassed when he looks back on these discussions as a 20 year old and realizes how pathetic and spoiled he sounded.[/quote]

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