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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How do you respond?

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I state that my profession was the perfect fit for me. It allowed me to work PT when I needed to and nights when I needed to. It allowed me to stay home when they were little, it's very flexible. I tell him I never wanted to be a doctor. I am happy being a nurse. I enjoy helping people the way I do.

I tell him that in the real world, nobody asks if you are [b]gifted.[/b] You are judged on your grades and accomplishments.

Now I just stop him in his tracks and tell him to stop being disrespectful. If he continues being rude, he loses things like the phone.[/quote]

OP, here is your mistake. You told your child his IQ and you labelled him "gifted." That's a b.s. word. My IQ is higher than your child's, but am I "gifted"? No. I'm an ordinary person of average accomplishments. I couldn't be a nurse if my life depended on it! So, am I "smarter" than you? I doubt it.

There are so many different types of intelligence. Some people are geniuses with their hands, some are fabulous with people, some are politically gifted, some are great at selling, some are wonderfully organized, some are gifted at art, music, acting, dance, etc. etc. None of these requires a high "IQ". It's just a number that means your son did well on a test of his intellectual abilities. But that's it.

Here's my advice: Ignore whatever he says. Make jokes about his comments. He's a rude, annoying teenager. He says these things to get at you. If you don't respond, he'll stop. The truth is, he means none of it. He has no idea what he's capable of because he's never pushed himself to perform.

And never, never, never mention IQ or use the word "gifted" within his earshot. Never. It does him no good. [/quote]

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