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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's a very tough call.  I would do donor eggs if my last ditch attempt with OE doesn't work.  For me (and I am being very candid here since this is an anonymous board), there are 3 factors that make adoption a no go: 1) cost 2) logistics and 3) I am not interested in raising someone else's child after going though 1) and 2).

For DE I would go outside of the US in part to minimize the costs and I would feel better knowing that the child is my husband's, since he is the reason I want to have children to begin with. I would also feel better being able to learn about the donor (education, hobbies, photos).

I admire people who adopt, but I know I am not cut out for that. I realize all this may make me sound like a bit of an ass, but this is honestly how I feel.  [/quote]

[b]But do you think it's weird that it's his not yours? Like they'll have a bond you don't share?[/b] At least with adoption it's an equal footing (neither of yours)?[/quote]

Not the op, but yes, this aspect feels weird to me personally.
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Holding my DE baby right now. He's totally mine. Do not feel like he isn't just because we don't share genetics. In fact, for me, carrying him was a big factor in why I choose DE vs adoption. There is a greater chance of bonding because you are with each other for 40 weeks. (But any adoptive parent will also tell you that they bond quickly). I felt pain the first time I was away from him. Can't get more bonded than that.

DH was worried that I would resent his genetic connection, so he offered to use donor sperm to level the playing field. It was sweet but I declined his offer.

As for MS during pregnancy- look into magnesium deficiency and MS. I made a point to get lots of magnesium via supplements, drinking coconut water and through the skin and had no MS.[/quote]

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