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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]you really can't win.  Problem is, in this area, parents cater to every whim of their child.  They make excuses for everything that little johnny does, etc.

So,[b] if she had disciplined him in a way that you didn't find appropriate, she would have been screwed.  And if she didn't, she was screwed.[/b]

She told your son not to pick it up, he disobeyed her.  In my world, that blame is solely on your son. He's 5.  He knows how to listen to an adult.[/quote]

The only way to make a five-year-old drop something is to use physical force.  And frankly, a lot of it.  How would you have reacted if your sons had reported that the babysitter grabbed your son's arm and shook it hard?  What if it left bruises?  What if she had to pry the bird out of his hands and he complained that she hurt his fingers?  Or scratched him?

She told him to put it down.  He disobeyed.  At least she had him put in on a plate or something when he got home.

Yes, he should have washed his hands. [/quote]

Exactly, this sounds like a no win situation for the baby sitter.  If she yelled, he could've accused her of yelling, if she grabbed, he could've accused her of hitting him.  It is not really the kids who are out of control these days, it is the parents. I would like to see a preschool or a nanny service that provides common sense and old fashioned care, such as yes, yelling at the kid, sitting kid down, I mean time outs are not even allowed any more in many places, so what is a person to do?  I had nannies before and you have to reassure her that she can do what she feels necessary to discipline the child, to treat the kid as she would her own, the problem is parents accuse teachers and nannies and care givers all the time these days, instead of looking at themselves and their kids. OP, you know yourself, is your son the kind of kid that would've dropped the bird or put up a tantrum? [/quote]

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