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OP says her child is in daycare.  [b]OP's situation is that she is depressed (and maybe has other things going on like a too-inflexible job, or an unsupportive husband.)  We also know that OP's mom is a jerk.[/b]

OP, if I knew you I would totally take you out for a glass of wine!  [/quote]

Yes. OP, my advice is:

1. Consider whether you are depressed.
2. If you have a partner, talk to your partner about how to solve the problems TOGETHER. The child is not your (singular) child. The child is your (both of you's) child. BOTH of you are EQUALLY responsible for the care of the child, as well as for the maintenance of the household. If your partner says, "The way to solve your problem is for you to quit your job" -- well, I hope that your partner doesn't say that.
3. Stop talking to your mother. [/quote]

I've posted on this thread before wondering about childcare and your DH.  Now that those questions have been answered, I agree with the PP of this reply.  OP, daycare is usually a 12 hour day.  Granted, most of us hustle to and fro to ensure that our children don't have to stay there all 12 hours.  But since you telework (i.e. no commute), we can only assume that you can take a couple of hours - before or after work - to get to a doctor and get back in time to pick up DC from daycare.  Like a SAHM PP mentioned, you actually have MORE options than a SAHM because you have childcare already in place and paid for.

Those who are bringing up depression have a good point.  With one child, a plan between you and DH should be easily worked out and executed.  Quit worrying about your mother and start thinking of things YOU can do to make your life easier.  Leaving DC at daycare one extra hour a day so you can run errands might be part of the new plan.  Asking DH to commit to Saturday mornings at the park with DC so you can grocery shop and run errands may be another part.  You simply have to do what the rest of us on life's treadmill have to do.  It's not always fun, easy, or cheery, but when you are organized and purposeful, you'll have more time to yourself to relax.

Finally, is DC on a set bedtime?  That will greatly free up your evening time. [/quote]

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