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[quote=Anonymous]Hi OP!!  First off, I really think you are depressed.  PLEASE make an appointment with a reputable cognitive-behavioral therapist.  If you are in DC I recommend the Capitol Institute for Cognitive Therapy. Even if you have to take a loan from your 401K it's worth it to commit to 12 sessions.  You will see change, you really will.

If you can't do that, I recommend the book Beat the Blues by Robert Leahy.  http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1401921698?psc=1&redirect=true&ref_=oh_aui_detailpage_o02_

The chapter on motivation is really good in that book.  The author goes a bit overboard about it (I mean, if all it took to not be depressed was to decide to be a go-getter, then none of us would be depressed ...) But his central point about getting things done while depressed is that the hallmark of depression is that you don't want to do anything.  So, you basically have to ignore that feeling of not wanting to do anything, and just do things.

Second, I also want you to know that 2 was very difficult for me too.  Although the newborn and infant stage was really hard, there was a kind of adrenaline and novelty that helps you through.  But somewhere around 2, the adrenaline wore off, or maybe the exhaustion just caught up with me.  2 is also the age where they stop being cute babies that are easy to soothe and you can stick in a stroller and basically ignore for an hour if you just need to take a long walk, and start being toddlers that you can't ignore for a second!  So I think that reading up on toddler parenting might also be something that helps you adjust to this new phase.

Third, your job.  It's hard to tell, but maybe the 90% telework thing isn't working for you.  If your job is not flexible enough for you to take an hour off to get to the doctor, then you might think about making changes.  I really don't think staying at home is your solution here, though.

Fourth, housecleaners.  We moved to weekly housecleaning and it made a huge difference!  Now I can basically always have the house looking nice by just doing a 15 minute tidying cleanup in the evenings.[/quote]

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